With increasing need for guidance, I have set up a marriage guidance agency called PURE HEARTS where I endeavour to help couples to resolve concerns and learn how to live marital life with contentment. Many couples have sought help from a non-Islamic marriage agency and have felt it to be incompatible and costly.
Through mediation I also work with families as the couple sometimes are confused from conflicting advice from their relations. As the extended families are an integral part of our family unit, we need to educate and understand the dynamics, of their roles and responsibilities within the Islamic framework.
The repeated patterns and the most common problems in marriage are the lack of words and communication mainly from the brother’s side, baggage his & hers from the past which are things we bring into the marriage. Anger and temperament, Finance and its pitfalls, time management and confusion of roles of spouses, negative parenting experienced by either spouse.
These are some of the things I deal with on a daily basis.
My advice to our Muslim brothers and sisters, please seek professional help before you get divorced.